Monthly Archives: December 2012
Learning to Listen ~ Learning to Hear
Sermon from 07222012 on Matthew 13
My 8th grade science teacher Mr. Calloway always said,
“Clllaaaassssss….. To hear me is to understand me.”
What did he mean by that? Isn’t hearing just hearing? Well, actually no.
In the story of Jesus visiting Mary and Martha at Bethany, both women could hear the sound of Jesus’ voice. Only Mary was listening to his voice, so only Mary had an opportunity to really hear what he had to say.
“Most of us at one time or another have both heard and said, “You’re not listening to me.”
What does that mean? Generally that someone is not paying attention. It could also mean that the listener is attentive, but not open – they have already decided what the message will be and what it will mean, so they are “not really listening.”
How can there be a difference between listening and really listening?
If we have ever lived in a place for a long time, we may have become numb and deaf to the constant background sounds there. Church bells and trains in the distance. The hum of highway traffic. Insects and birds. Running water, creaking floors, squeaking doors. A newcomer will say, “Listen. Do you hear that?” and we will say, “Hear what?” because we truly do not hear it any more.
What about the people around us? Do we become numb and deaf to the voices of those in our lives? Our parents, our children, our spouses and significant others? Our coworkers, friends and fellow church folk? Yes, we may hear the noise of their voices, but do we really listen and hear? Have we perhaps decided that there is nothing really to hear, so we tune out? How many of us are guilty of choosing not to listen and hear? The other person always complains, always argues, always criticizes, always debates, always sees it differently, and so we tune out.
That’s actually an interesting phrase – “tune out.” It has to do with tuning a radio to receive a certain signal and convert it into intelligible sound. The signal is always being broadcast – actually many different signals are. We have to make a choice to tune in to a particular signal, and then the radio has to do its magnetic conversion of radio waves to sound waves so that we can hear it. And then we have to listen intentionally to the sound being emitted. And then do we have the capacity to really hear it?
How many background noises are there in your normal day? Every electronic device in your environment produces a hum, many of them even when they are turned off – which is why they
One article from the Washington Post describes studies conducted near airports in several large cities. Apparently the effect of noise pollution is present even during sleep when we are supposedly not attentive to the sounds around us.
In a Scientific American article… a NIOSH study is referenced indicating that continual exposure to excessive background noise can aggrivate “stress-related conditions such as high blood pressure, coronary disease, peptic ulcers and migraine headaches.”
What might help us is to reflect on the following three notions:
We hear sounds around us even without trying.
We listen with intentionality of focus – we have to tune other things out.
We hear with new intentionality when we set aside our assumptions.
Learning to Ask Questions
Notes for a sermon from 07152012
How many of us had a teacher in school who said, “There are no dumb questions”?
And yet, what percentage of our education was about asking questions versus memorizing answers or collections of information?
We learned who did what to whom where and when.
Did we learn to ask and explore why?
We learned that John Wilkes Booth shot Abraham Lincoln on April 14, 1865 at the Ford Theatre during a production of “Our American Cousin”.
Did we learn to ask why? Or what other explanations there may have been? No.
We learned that Lee Harvey Oswald shot John F. Kennedy on November 22, 1963 near Dealy Plaza.
Did we learn to ask why? Or what other explanations there may have been? No. Oliver Stone asked these questions in his 1991 movie JFK, but he was mocked by many as a conspiracy theorist.
Why do we mock someone who questions the predominant view? Why is the skeptic ridiculed?
I want us to think together about the role of questions in our faith, and how we might learn to ask questions.
Listen for the word of God in our scripture reading from Mark 8:27-38.
In this text we hear Jesus ask the disciples two questions. “Who do people say that I am?” and “Who do you say that I am?” Why did Jesus do this? Why ask questions of the disciples, and why these questions?
Are we to conclude that Jesus did not know what people thought about him? Was Jesus doing what many of us have done – wondered what other people thought of him? Have you ever been in a group and wondered what the people around you thought of you? Have you secretly wished that you could read their minds and know what they thought? Or perhaps you decided you are better off not knowing what some of them think.
And then the focus shifts from the crowd to Jesus’ closest associates. “Who do you say that I am?” Never mind what all those strangers, groupies and hangers on think. What about you, my closest companions – what do you think of me? Who do you think that I am?
It is important to recognize that this question is not asked in John’s gospel – there would be no point, because by the time John is telling his story of Jesus, we have a messiah who is boldly standing in the market and in the temple making “I am” statements to anyone who will listen. John’s Jesus tells everyone who he is, so there is no need to ask what people are saying.
Not so with the Jesus of Mark. In fact, Mark’s account, likely the earliest written of the four biblical gospels, includes what is called the messianic secret. Here we see Jesus repeatedly heal people and then require that they tell no one what has happened to them or who has accomplished this work. Mark’s Jesus is determined to keep as low a profile as possible. So then it makes sense for Jesus to ask, “Who do people say that I am?” and “Who do you say that I am?” Because Jesus had been pretty vague and evasive about who he is. He kept talking about himself in the third person as the Son of Man – 13 time in fact (8:31, 38; 10:33, 45).
But again, we are left wondering why he is asking the questions. Is it because he doesn’t know the answers? Perhaps, since scripture is clear that Jesus’ knowledge was limited – in Mark 13 we learn that only the Father knows the details of the consummation of history – the Son does not know. So it is reasonable to think that he lacked other information as well. Yet we also know that Jesus seemed able to know the thoughts of the Pharisees when they doubted him.
This line of our questioning is worthwhile in itself. It invites us into a deeper curiosity about Jesus and his ways, in which we are to walk.
Let’s say for the sake of argument that Jesus is not seeking information – either he already has it, or doesn’t really need it. Jesus’ interest is not to be told what others think about him. Jesus’ desire is to invite the disciples into a journey of reflection and discovery. Perhaps they had not really stopped to think about all of the different things that were being said about Jesus. “Some say John the Baptist” who by this time had been beheaded. “Some say Elijah” who it was said would precede the Messiah – which is why Jesus said that John came as Elijah. “Some say one of the prophets” – a leader after the example of the Old Testament prophets who came to call the people of Israel back to more faithful worship in their covenant relationship with God – to restore justice and lift up the downtrodden.
It is worth our stopping to note these three things that were said. Jesus’ behavior fit into some preexisting categories and familiar frames of reference – Prophet, Elijah, John the Baptist. Jesus was unusual, but not unique in the way others saw and experienced him.
As we think about who Jesus is to us, we might stop and spend some time asking Jesus’ first question for ourselves. Who do the people around us say that Jesus is? Who do our neighbors and coworkers think Jesus is? Who do the people at the mall or the ball field know Jesus to be? What can we learn about Jesus from asking this question humbly and really listening to the answers? Are we willing to do this, and then to listen to what other people say? We will talk next week about learning to listen and hear. For now, it is enough to learn to ask questions. The questions Jesus asks of his disciples, we might ask of ourselves.
It does not stop there though. Jesus also asks, “Who do you say that I am?” This is so important. Jesus has not said publically that he is anything other than the son of Joseph the carpenter and Mary from Nazareth. In Mark’s gospel we do not even have the benefit of the Holy Spirit’s confirmation at Jesus’ baptism, nor Jesus public proclamation as he reads from Isaiah 60 in his home synagogue. We have to figure out for ourselves from the evidence given – from watching and listening to Jesus. And after a while, he asks us, “Who do you say that I am?”
Peter’s answer is the only one we hear, and that answer is partial. “You are the Messiah.” In contrast to the answers of others that Jesus is one who would precede the Messiah, Peter has determined, perhaps in conversation with the other disciples, that Jesus is the Messiah. The messiah was to be a political revolutionary – we might liken him to George Washington and Thomas Jefferson rolled together – a wise military and political figure who would bring freedom and would become the next king of Israel, deposing both the Emperor and his todies – Pilot and Herod.
Mark’s Jesus also does not say, “Blessed are you, for only God has revealed this to you.” (Matthew 16:17)
He says, “Don’t tell anyone!” “Sternly ordered” is how Mark puts it.
That’s not really our point here, but it is interesting, how Mark handles the story of Jesus.
Anyway, back to questions.
If the questions are intended to prompt reflection on the part of the disciples, then Mark intends that we do the same – that we wonder about who Jesus is; that we learn to ask these questions.
Why not just tell us who he is? Why did Jesus approach his ministry in this way? Why did Mark tell his story in this way? What is with all of these questions? Would somebody please just give me a straight answer for a change?
Well, it won’t be Jesus. Did you hear how Jesus answered the question asked of him – by asking his own question? Granted, the Pharisees were trying to trick him, but still. Jesus certainly could have given a direct answer if he had wanted to. Again, there is something about questions.
We have one other question to consider.
Jesus calls a blind man to him and asks, “What do you want me to do for you?”
Is he serious? The man is a blind beggar. What does Jesus think the guy wants? Though to be fair, Jesus does have a history of not meeting the most obvious need people have. Remember the paralytic on the mat who was lowered through a hole in the roof by his four friends (Mark 2:1-12). Jesus pronounces that his sins are forgiven first, and only later proclaims physical healing. Over in John’s gospel Jesus asks a man who has been ill for 38 years whether he wants to be made well (John 5:1-9). That sounds like another crazy question, similar to the one addressed to the blind man from Mark’s story.
Why ask these questions?
Does Jesus not know what they need? Can he not guess what they want?
The answer to both these questions is probably yes. So what is going on?
Again, I’m suggesting that Jesus wants these people to think about what they want and need. Mark is asking us to do the same. We need to learn to ask ourselves these questions and make them the object of our meditation and prayer. What do I really want? What do I really need? Do I really want to be made well? Am I willing to accept the changes that will entail? If I pursue the dream that I have, if I pursue wholeness and vitality and a life lived fully for God, what will it cost me? What is at risk? Bartimaeus had only known blindness and begging for his whole adult life – he would have to completely relearn how to function in society. None of his old coping mechanisms or ways of relating to others will work any longer if he accepts healing of his blindness. So Jesus is right to ask him and us this question. Mark is right to ask us this question. We are right to ask ourselves, and one another. What do we want God to do for us? Do we want to be made well?
I want to suggest one final thing. I think that questions about God are the most powerful language we have. It is more powerful to ask someone a question about God than to make a statement about God. When we ask someone about what they want or need, or about who they understand God to be, we are engaging their own faith. When we tell them what we think they need, or what we think the right answers are, or even who we think God is, then we are not engaging the part of their brain where faith is formed. The part of the brain that takes in data is different from that which dreams, imagines, asks and discovers.