SPRH – Appolo 13

Square Peg in a Round Hole

How often are we trying to get things to “fit”, to work together, when they were never designed to do that? Sometimes we just have to make it work, re-engineer on the fly, and that’s fine, particularly in emergency situations. But do you remember how exhausting that movie is? Emotionally wrenching (Hanks does it again in Gravity, IMHO!) Who wants to live that way all the time?

Isn’t it preferable to engineer your life in such a way that things fit, comfortably, organically? And how great to have a community, a team of folks like in this clip, helping us to problem solve our way toward better living.

Plug into the community now.

Clarify your dream for your life.

Many of us are thinking this week about our accomplishments in the year past, and the things we hope to do in the year ahead. Some of these are personal quality of life topics, while others are more about our professional or work lives. Often we try to think and function as though these were separate and disconnected spheres, only overlapping or impacting each other during a heavy work project, on sick days or at the company holiday party. My own experience and observation indicates that an integrated life is a happier and healthier life – one where our personal and work lives overlap in healthy and beneficial ways. A great example of this is the growing trend in flexible work situations where people can be more effective and efficient at work because they are able to also accommodate their family needs, including caring for children, spouses and aging parents.

As we move into the new year, we do well to clarify our life dreams alongside our short term personal and professional goals. Otherwise, we may invest years and even decades into valuable endeavors only to discover far too late that we have failed to build the life we most wanted. When we have clarity around our life dream(s), then we can make choices each day that will move us in that direction, and can gather a community of advocates who will help us along the way.

DASL
Consider the possibility that your life needs more DASL. I’m not asking you to add bling with glitter and rhinestones. No, DASL stands for Dream ~ Articulate  ~ Share ~ Live. Dreaming is something that happens inside of our hearts, minds and imaginations. Our dreams want to come out, so we learn to articulate them, even when they do not seem to make sense to us, or seem irrational, unbelievable, impossible. Next we share this articulation of our dreams with others. We do this for several reasons. When we share, we hear ourselves and our dreams, and we come to believe in them more. We also continue to refine our articulation of our dreams. Plus, when others hear our articulation of our dreams, then they ask questions, catch the vision, begin sharing our dream, and experience an upwelling of their own dreams. This process naturally unfolds into the reality of living our dreams. When you see it, clarify it, and tell it, you begin organically to live it, and you find resources in people, ideas, tools, and energy that will help make the dream a reality.

Where is my dream?
If you already have a dream trying to burst forth, and you know it intimately, then the hardest work is already done. But what if you don’t have a dream, or can’t see/remember because it lies buried under obligation, fear or grief? In an upcoming post we will consider some techniques to uncover or discover your dream (personally or professionally). For now, go back to the last dream you remember having, and practice DASL with that. And when you’re ready to talk, let me know.

MindTools Resource Page

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My go to site for quizzes, assessments and resources for personal and professional development is MindTools.com.

This site has 1000+ pages of resources conveniently divided into an array of categories:

Access the main page here: MindTools.

From their “The Toolkit” Page


Use links below, in the menu on the left or on the Toolkit menu above to access the Mind Tools toolkit.

Leadership Tools
Whether you’re in a leadership position now, or you’re working towards this, you can become an exceptional leader!

Team Tools
Learn the full range of skills you need to manage a team successfully.

Strategy Tools
We’ll show you the strategy tools taught on MBA courses, and how you can apply them to your situation right now.

Problem Solving Techniques
Devise better solutions to the problems you face by using the skills set out in these articles.

Decision Making Tools
Add some rigor to your decision making with these tried-and-tested approaches and processes.

Project Management Skills
Find out about the formal disciples of project and program management and change management.

Time Management Tools
Beat work overload, increase your effectiveness, and achieve more.

Stress Management Techniques
Learn a range of techniques with our holistic approach to reducing stress.

Communication Skills
From listening to writing emails, running meetings and giving presentations, these tools are vital to your career success!

Creativity Techniques
Learn some powerful and reliable ways of generating the fresh, new ideas you need.

Learning Skills
These articles help you handle information better, learn more effectively and remember things better.

Career Skills
Don’t leave your career progression to chance! Find out how to develop the career you want.

They also have memberships for individuals, organizations and businesses to use in their HR / People Development strategies. Find out more here: MindTools Corporate.If you know of other great sights, or have observations/critiques on this one, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Best Jobs and How to Decide

“What do I want to be when I grow up?”

Whether you’re trying to decide that as a high school or college student, during a midlife “there must be more” crisis, or after a layoff, divorce or other life upheaval, this is an important and difficult question.

One source of data for consideration comes from CNN.com:
Best Jobs in America

You’ll also want to ask yourself:
What do I want out of life?

and:
What am I best at?

As you work through all of that, be sure to have conversation partners who can help you with reality check and creative thinking – both are important in the process and are enhanced through dialogue with other perspectives.

Let us know how we can help.